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Hey, welcome back to CodependencyQuiz.com again. This is the answer sheet, and one of the questions on the quiz was, on your day off do you find it hard to relax and have fun, or do you wish you had more time to relax and
If you are codependent, then this is probably the answer you gave. You find it hard to relax and have fun and here’s why. Again, a codependent person is always focused on everyone else. They have a really hard time practicing what’s called self-care. They have a hard time recognizing your own needs
And so when you get a day off, it is necessary to relax and have fun. That is a healthy, balanced approach. You have to work, and you have to relax. You cannot do either one of these 100% of the time. That is a bad model. So being able to balance these things out is essential, but the codependent person has a very hard time with this thing because that is part of the self-care model.
When you start to become healthy, you’re going to start recognizing or becoming more in balance and giving yourself permission to say, “I don’t have to do more stuff.” A codependent person derives much of their value off of what do they do. Have do they contribute? What are the activities that they can do?
They do not understand that they have worth and value simply because of who you are. Just being makes you valuable not just what you do. When you’re relaxing you’re focusing more on just who you are and not doing anything. You are actually having fun. It’s not productive. It’s not something that is benefiting other people, it’s benefiting yourself. And you are finding that balance again because you’re focused on the value of who you are and not what you do.
If you want to start moving toward a healthy relational style again and no longer being worried about being codependent, then ask yourself, “Am I able to take a day off?” And if I’m able to take a day off, can I just kick back, watch a movie, read a book, relax, sit on the beach somewhere, go do something fun, no matter what that is for you? Work on a project, do things that fill your tank, that fill your soul back up?
If you’re able to do that, then you’re moving much closer to a healthy relational style again, this work balance. You’re able to start finding value in who you are and less in exactly of what you do.